Book Review : When Work and Family Collide

I am a fan of Andy Stanley. I enjoy his writing style which seems effortless. I respect the way he is able to communicate biblical truth s in a way that is practical and engaging. His new book, When Work and Family Collide; Keeping Your Job From Cheating Your Family is a homerun. In this book, Stanley sets up the struggle and tension between work and family. He shows how the demands of work are equally felt whether you work for someone else, are self-employed, are in the ministry, or are a stay-at-home parent. As a pastor, this book goes to the heart of the greatest struggle I have, balancing ministry and my church family with my family (wife and son) at home. Stanley puts before his readers principles that make striking a balance easier to achieve.

The word “cheat” and “cheating” are used often throughout the book. In this context, Stanley defines cheating as “choosing to give up one thing in hope of gaining something else of greater value.” When Work and Family Collide is broken up into two parts. In part one (chapters 1-5), Stanley focuses on the dynamics of the person (spouse, child) who has been cheated. Part one can be summed up in the following quote, “The problem is this: there’s not enough time to get everything done that you’re convinced – or others have convinced you- needs to get done.”

In part two (chapters 6-10), he shares principles for change. In the second part of the book, Stanley introduces us to Daniel. As he shares principles on how to change the order of our lives and bring new balance, he uses the biblical account of Daniel to show it is possible to firmly hold to a conviction while retaining the respect of those around us. Stanley reveals three important steps to reordering an out-of-balance life. First, make up your mind. He writes, “you’ve got to decide to quit cheating at home before you know how you’re going to pull it off. This step is discussed in detail in chapter seven. Second, come up with a plan. He writes, “an exit strategy from your current schedule and present it to your employer.” This step is discussed in detail in chapter eight. Third, set up a test. This step is discussed in detail in chapter nine.

This book is a great resource. It is well-written, easy to read, and too lengthy (133 pages). Stanley’s use of real-life examples. scripture references, and personal stories lay the framework for a great book. A useful and helpful guide to those who know they are cheating at home. You will not be disappointed.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Waterbrook Multnomah Publishers as part of their Blogger Review Program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

2 thoughts on “Book Review : When Work and Family Collide

  1. Is this the same book as “Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Work and Family Collide”? I read that in 2004 in youth ministry classes at Liberty University.

  2. Dustin,

    Yes, this book is an update and re-release of Choosing to Cheat. Thanks for stopping by.


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