Book Review : Secrets of Dynamic Communication

secretPublic speaking. The very mention strikes fear into the hearts of millions. To be asked to stand in front of a group of strangers and speak to them for any period of time could be classified as worst-case scenario for many. As a pastor, public speaking is my life. I regularly stand before groups of people of all sizes and deliver a prepared sermon. As a result, my public speaking class in college was waived due to “life experience” (thankfully). The fear of public speaking is often made up of smaller uncertainties and concerns. Questions such as “Will they like me?” “Do I know enough to be speaking on this subject?” and “How do I manage my time?” fuel the fear. Author, conference speaker, and founder of Dynamic Communications International Ken Davis has written a new book entitled, “Secrets of Dynamic Communication”. In his book, Davis reveals his tried-and-true methods for becoming a better public speaker.

Davis’ book is split into three parts; The Preparation: The SCORRE Process, The Presentation: The SCORRE Delivery, and The Application: The SCORRE Advantage. These three sections also provide the framework of an effective speech, sermon, or talk. In section one; Davis introduces the reader to the SCORRE acronym. SCORRE, as Davis refers to it is “acronym that describes the basic process for developing any talk.” Davis begins with the Subject of the talk and then moves down the narrowing path to the Central Theme. Next is the Objective which is simply a sentence that forces the speaker to clearly state what the talk will be about. From there, Davis begins to build strong foundation with the Rationale. This is the logical content of the talk that should “lead the listener to your objective.” Resources are the stories, illustrations, and data that bring life to the talk. Finally, Evaluation is the ongoing process of self-examination. Chapters two through five provide further in-depth detail on each SCORRE element.

In section two, Davis deals with the delivery of the talk, message, or sermon. It is here that he reveals the importance of involving the audience, body language (voice, appearance, eye contact), and setting up an environment conducive to better communication (lighting, sound, etc.). In section three, Davis deals with application. It is here that he deals with matters such as time management and humor. Davis concludes with the characteristics of an effective communicator. He uses Aristotle’s thought that “every communicator must have the qualities of logos, ethos, and pathos.” Logos is associated with logical order and reasoning. Ethos refers to moral character and passion. Finally, pathos refers to the ability of a communicator to get in touch with the audience’s feelings and emotions.

“Secrets of Dynamic Communications” is a good book. It is easy to read yet still requires serious thought. I really enjoyed the style and flow of the book. The charts, outlines, ad samples were especially helpful. This is a book that I will greatly benefit from as a pastor. If you have a fear of public speaking, and that is a part of your profession, I highly recommend this book to you.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their Blogger Review Program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Book Review : Dangerous

dangerousAmerica Christianity is relatively safe. We worship in comfortable buildings with people who believe as we do. Our churches operate within more than adequate budgets with tried and true programs for every age of person. We are free to share our faith publicly. We are free to distribute and read God’s Word without reprise. Wrapped up in all of this institutionalized safety is the individual Christian taking fewer and fewer risks for, and in advance of their faith. We choose safety over danger, average over extreme, comfort over chaos, and the known over the risky.

I recently finished Caleb Bislow’s new book “Dangerous; Engaging the People and Places No One Else Will”. Bislow is a former youth pastor who left behind his job with the church, which he considered to safe, to pursue a call to go to places no one else has. Bislow is now part of Kingdom Building Ministries where he oversees a program called Stranded. This program is a missionary training program for Christians who want to be, as Bislow says, “radical”. This training is meant to be a week-long simulation of ministering to the lesser-known and less-safe places in the world; all from a pasture in Nebraska.

The book chronicles Bislow’s personal journey(s). It is the story of his personal journey from safe and comfortable to the “dark, despised, and dangerous” people and places of the world. Bislow recalls how the vision of an African boy standing in front of an airplane holding a staff served as the genesis of his calling to, and burden for, the people of Africa. A significant portion of the book (sections one and two) covers the events of Bislow eventually preaching to the Maasai people of Africa; quitting his job, fundraising, securing travel and guides, and the difficult journey the Maasai. Section Three, treacherous Territory, is the best of the book. Here, he draws attention to the people around the world who are rarely helped and most often forgotten. There people are the Unreached, Uncontacted, Restricted, Hunted, Convicted, Infected, Marginalized, Discriminated Against, and the Enslaved. Bislow shares his trips to these people groups (lepers, gypsies, prisoners, refuges, and prostitutes). I appreciated this section greatly as it highlighted many of the desperate people whom the civilized world has forgotten. In sections four and five, Bislow demonstrates the ways in which these people can be reached and calls for more Christians to leave what is safe and live dangerously.

As much as I would not like to, I can’t help but describe “Dangerous” as oversimplified, unbalanced, prideful, self-glorifying, and corny. As Bislow travels the world and reaches out to these isolated people groups, he rarely mentions the difficulty of the travel. I have traveled overseas on mission trips and nothing goes as smoothly as the author describes it. It seems to me that from his writing all went well all the time. He doesn’t mention the negative responses to the gospel invitation from those he spoke with. This leaves the book unbalanced. In my opinion, this book feels like a “been there, done that” type of work from the author. I would like to have read more about the challenges he faced on the ground and how they were overcome. Instead, the reader is given simply get on a plane to Africa with what one chapter calls a “backpack, burden, and a Bible”. I’m afraid that Bislow’s thrill-seeking expeditions do not recognize the missional framework that is necessary to sustain long-term disciple-making processes among these people groups.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Bethany House Publishers as part of their Blogger Review Program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Book Review : Why Still Care About Israel?

careabout israelDaily our news reports are filled with headlines which are connected to the nation of Israel. Whether it is another terrorist bombing in Jerusalem, a national leader calling for the extermination of the Jewish people, or the on-again off-again talks of peace between Israel and her neighbors, we are not allowed to forget about the significance and fragility of the nation of Israel. At the same time, the very mention of the name ‘Israel’ invokes images and feelings of compassion, anger, love, pity, confusion, and hatred; depending upon which lens you choose to view Israel through. In her latest book, “Why Still Care About Israel? The Sanctity of Covenant, Moral Justice, and Prophetic Blessing”, a revision of her 2003 book, author and former lawyer Sandra Teplinsky tackles a loaded and oft-misunderstood subject. From the perspective of a Messianic Jewish believer of Christ, Teplinsky has written a thought-provoking and heart-stirring work that introduces the reader to the history, people, religion, and political pressures of the tiny sovereign state of Israel.

The title is the premise of and scaffolding for the entire book. Teplinsky asks the reader if there is any reason to still care about what happens to Israel. Emphatically and without reservation, Teplinsky answers own question. She writes, “The Creator does not play favorites with Israel. He chose her so that people like you and me in every nation and period of history would know – through her Scriptures, her Savior and her soul – His loving mercy and grace. Perhaps to the surprise of some, He is not finished with the Jewish nation – or with how He wants to bless us through her”. She begins by introducing the reader to the depth of God’s love for Israel, His chosen people. Again, she writes, “God ties His love for the Jewish people to the oath He swore to them. He unconditionally binds Himself by His word to Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.” It is here that we are introduced to the covenants, or the binding promises of God has made to Israel.

Teplinsky weaves together the threads of God’s love unconditional love for Israel, covenant promises, prophetic signposts, and Israel’s religion to create the fabric of a past, present, and future significance of the Jewish people. The first six chapters deal with God’s relationship with His chosen people (His love, His election) and their relationship with Him (their worship, their salvation). The remaining chapters deal with the relationship between other nations/religions and Israel. Teplinsky highlights such topics as the continual persecution of Messianic Judaism, examples of modern day anti-Semitism, the rise of Islam and its threat to Israel, the continuing battle for their God-promised land, Israel’s enemies (PLO, Palestinian Authority), and the future of Israel in light of prophecy.

Why Still Care About Israel? is a well-written and thoroughly-researched work. Teplinsky’s inside perspective; a Messianic Jewish believer of Christ and part-time resident of Israel has given her insight that many do not have. It is clear that her legal investigative and research skills have paid off. I enjoyed the historical side of this book. Teplinsky helps the reader who may be unfamiliar with the Middle East conflict to better understand it all. She gives the reason why there is a battle over al piece of land that is, as she says, “1/500th the size of the U.S.” You might expect that the aforementioned perspective would demonstrate a bias in favor of Israel. Not the case. She admits that Israel has her own struggles and is by no means perfect or without fault. She also is very sympathetic to the Palestinian viewpoint. There is one statement that I had a hard time with. Teplinsky quotes a team of Bible scholars who say “Ultimately, how a person treats the Jews will reveal whether or not he is saved”. This statement is a little far-reaching for me from a theological standpoint. Overall this is a powerful book. Insightful. Honest. Timely. I would recommend this book to anyone who wants to better understand why the simple mention of the name ‘Israel’ brings about such strong emotions today.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Baker Publishing as part of their Blogger Review Program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Book Review : Dateline Jerusalem

datelineI would assume that many Christians struggle with a clear understanding what happens daily in the Middle East. We hear the names of locations such as the Gaza Strip, the West Bank, Jerusalem, Palestine, and the Golan Heights mentioned regularly in the news. This leads us to ask questions such as “Are these places important?” “Are these places the same?” “Why do I need to know all of this?” “Why are these people fighting?” The truth of the matter is that what takes place in the Middle East does have a profound effect upon the rest of the world. Each of these locations has a rich, deep, and spiritual heritage that goes all the way back to the days of Abraham. In his new book, “Dateline Jerusalem; An Eyewitness Account of Prophecies Unfolding in the Middle East”, CBN News Jerusalem Bureau Chief Chris Mitchell shares his first-hand knowledge of the unrest in Jerusalem and subsequent turmoil and fighting throughout the Middle East.

As a news correspondent, Mitchell has been witness to many events, both good and bad, that has shaped, and is shaping, world events today. This “on the ground” insight is what this book work so well. The author weaves several different elements into his book. He brings out the historical significance of Jerusalem and surrounding areas. He also summarizes the current political climate of the region and shares how various world leaders associate with Israel. Mitchell gives his readers a basic, but effective history of the land of Israel which helps to frame his book’s purpose. Mitchell describes such events as 2011’s Arab Spring uprising in Cairo, the recent migration of Jews back to the nation of Israel, and the rise of Islamic influence and the desire for the reestablishment of the caliphate. He also writes of the conversion of Muslims through dreams and visions and the rise of a worldwide emphasis of prayer on behalf of the Jewish people. The high points of the book are Mitchell’s connection of modern day events to biblical prophecy. Dateline Jerusalem is well written. Mitchell gives a lot of information to the reader without drowning them. Mitchell has put together a powerful and concise summary of why Jerusalem matters to the rest of the world. A great work.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their Blogger Review Program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Book Review : Where Are The Christians?

whereAs a pastor, I enjoy reading behind authors who write on topics such as faith, religion, Christianity, the church, and missions. I also enjoy reading behind those authors who delve into the deeper areas such as; the reluctance of the Christian to share their faith with others, the widespread persecution against the church, the decline of the church in America, and the seemingly growing trend of Christians divorcing themselves from the church. It was for the reasons above that I was intrigued by Eric Shuster’s new book, “Where Are the Christians? The Unrealized Potential of a Divided Religion”. Shuster is the director of the Foundation for Biblical Studies and regularly studies the faith of Christians today. Shuster sets out to solve the mystery as to where the Christians are today.

Shuster divides his book into four sections. In Section One, Who Are The Christians? A History, Shuster looks at the rise of the Christian faith through four time periods beginning with Jesus Christ’s earthly ministry. In Section Two, What Is a Christian? A Definition, an attempt is made to generate a concise and exact definition for a Christian. In Section Three, Where Are The Christians? A Categorization, Shuster offers a his perspective as to the location of Christians today. He says they are leaving, hiding, vacillating, and endeavoring. In Section Four, How is Christianity to Unite? A Vision, he recommends four areas that can be strengthened to bring the Christian faith together (individual, family, church, and community).

I did not like this book at all. Section one was by far the best one. His summary of the Christian faith and the growth of the church through evangelism, corruption, and conflict were very well written and insightful. However, Shuster could have stopped after the first section and he would have had a much better book. Shuster’s attempt to define “Christian” is confusing, convoluted, and all-encompassing. As a result, there is no clear definition for the subject of his book. In sections three and four, Shuster inclusion of  graphs, lists, surveys, and charts serve no other purpose than to further muddy the waters. The number one issue I have with “Where Are the Christians?” is the erroneous theology. For example, Shuster writes, “How important is baptism? Jesus told Nicodemus, ‘verily I say unto you thee, Except a man be born of water and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God. (John 3:5) The phrase ‘kingdom of God’ is interpreted in various ways with a common interpretation being ‘the Lord’s Church’. Using this interpretation, baptism is therefore not only a saving ordinance taught by Jesus Christ, but it is also a means of entering into a covenant as a member of the Lord’s Church”. It is my prayer that an individual who is seeking the Lord and has questions about personal salvation does not pick up this book. I cannot in good faith recommend this book.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Cedar Fort Publishing and Media as part of their Blogger Review Program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Book Review : Apostate; The Men Who Destroyed The Christian West

apostateEvery so often a book comes along which forces the reader to come to terms with how mediums such as print, lecture, and music have become satanically influenced. Such books leave one saying, “I had no idea” and asking questions such as “How did that happen?” One such book is Pastor Kevin Swanson’s “Apostate; The Men Who Destroyed the Christian West”. Swanson writes of a battle. Methodically, he shows how western civilization’s foundations have shifted from that of certain definitive Christian values towards a godless, self-satisfying, and humanistic value system. Swanson’s book shines a spotlight on the men that he believes are at least partly responsible for the demise and downfall of the Christian west. In his own words, Swanson describes the battle through the following description. “The crux of the worldview conflict which has ravaged the culture and entered the foyer of the Christian church in the third millennium A.D. is the denial of God’s right to be God, and the usurpation of that right by man. In a word, it is a life and death struggle over sovereignty. Who will be sovereign—man or God?”

It is important to understand the point of view from which Apostate was written. Swanson refers to the men who “destroyed the Christian West” as apostates. An apostate is defined as a person who forsakes or departs from their religion, principles, or cause. Swanson’s book deals with the religious departure of these men. Swanson’s approaches these men and their departure from the perspective that these men possessed a Christian upbringing and point of view that they later walked away from. Swanson, throughout his book, refers to these men as Nephilim, a reference to the tribe of pre-diluvian men who come from the ungodly union of the sons of God and daughters of men referenced in Genesis 6. He says of the Nephilim, “These were men with tremendous character, but with an evil twist. The strength of a godly heritage was used for foul ends.” As the book unfolds, this statement takes on a prophetic importance. Swanson describes the process of Western civilization’s devolution that in essence becomes the outline for his book. He says that intellectual philosophers developed humanistic ideas that were revolutionary to their time period and began make them a part of their own lives. Swanson then goes on to say that the great writers and authors pulled these revolutionary humanistic ideas into their literary works which in turn were taught in classrooms from high schools to major universities. He writes, “there is no better way to radicalize nations with new ideas that by infiltrating the educational systems.” The final step in this process is today’s mass media propagating the revolutionary humanistic philosophies. Again, Swanson writes, “much of present day perspectives and attitudes, culture, media, family life, and education are rooted in the destructive ideologies of the 18th and 19th centuries”.

In part one, Swanson defines gives his definition of apostasy. He also explains the terminology that will use throughout the book. He defines terms such as epistemology, ethics, metaphysics, and truth. He introduces the reader to the Philosophical Nephilim and reveals their humanistic contributions. These men are Thomas Aquinas (Forming the Humanist Synthesis), Rene Descartes (Forming the Humanist Philosopher), John Locke (Forming the Humanist Theologian), Jean-Jacques Rousseau (Forming the Humanist Society), Jeremy Bentham (Forming the Humanist Ethic), Ralph Waldo Emerson (Forming the Humanist Person), Karl Marx (Forming the Humanist Political State), Charles Darwin (Forming the Humanist Scientist), Friedrich Nietzsche (Forming the Humanist Psychology), John Dewey (Forming the Humanist Education), and Jean-Paul Sartre (Forming the Humanist Culture). In part two, Literary Nephilim, Swanson gives the reader a look into the lives of the “great” writers and their works to show how the revolutionary humanistic ideas made their way into the classrooms. He writes of William Shakespeare, Nathaniel Hawthorne, Mark Twain, Ernest Hemingway, and John Steinbeck. I must admit that I had read these authors and their major works before coming to Christ and had thought nothing of their humanistic and at times atheistic viewpoints. After reading Apostate, it is clear, as well, as disappointing to see their departure from the Christian faith. In the final part, Swanson looks at how mass media has given a powerful voice and relevance to humanistic thinking. He speaks of the cultural Nephilim as being, for example, Madonna, Eminem, the Beatles, Marilyn Manson, Frank Sinatra, Led Zeppelin, Lady Gaga, Mick Jaggar, and John Lennon as just as a few who are beating the humanist drum today in front of an ever-increasing audience of impressionable minds.

Apostate is a powerfully-written and eye-opening work. Swanson has made a way for the reader to connect the dots between the philosophers of antiquity and the major problems our world faces today as a result of their humanistic leaning and teachings. Unless we fully understand where we have come from a society we will never be able to right the ship or moral collapse. Swanson’s book also highlights man’s total depravity and natural proclivity for self-satisfaction and self-elevation. He highlights man’s need for a Savior and for the abiding presence of the Holy Spirit on our lives. He also brings to the surface the need for our faith to be our own, not our parent’s and not our pastor’s. There is an underlying challenge to pursue Christ above all else. Powerful. Sobering. Insightful. Apostate is well researched and incredibly timely. Without a doubt this book should be a must read for all church leadership and seminary students. Swanson sums up the West’s attitude in the midst of this shift toward humanistic thought when he says, “they play their video games while Rome burns.” I enthusiastically recommend.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from CrossFocused Reviews as part of their Blogger Review Program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Book Review : Finally Free

finallyfreeAddictions dot the landscape of our homes, families, businesses, schools, and churches today. Everyday people battle enslavement to everything from alcohol to drugs, food to work, success to sex. In his new book, “Finally Free; Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace”, author Heath Lambert deals head-on with an addiction that is destroying the moral fabric of America today; pornography. This book is not about pornography, per se. This is not a book that will tell how many are involved in the industry. This is not a book that will reveal how many billions of dollars the porn industry generates every year. This book will not tell you anything about the avenues by which individuals view pornography every day. The purpose of this book, in Lambert’s own words, “is about something much better than pornography. This book is about the amazing power of Jesus Christ to free you from pornography. In this book, I want to share with you the amazing depth and affect of Christ’s power to eradicate pornography from your life”.

In Finally Free, Lambert lays out a series of practical steps for those who are struggling with pornography. His book contains nine chapters in which he lays out eight methods meant to help a person battling pornography. Lambert begins with the pivotal aspect of this battle; God’s grace. He speaks of the forgiving and transforming graces of God that make freedom possible. His forgiving grace forgives the individual of partaking in pornography and His transforming grace takes away the desire to view by filling the individual with more of Christ Himself. Lambert speaks of eight methods of battle. He writes of using sorrow, accountability, confession, humility, gratitude, and several others to fight off the desires to engage in pornography. It is not a matter of “check all boxes and be free”; rather, his book leaves the reader with practical means of applying God’s grace to their life. His theology is so solid that the eight methods could be applied against any addiction with positive results.

Of all the books that have been written recently in the “resist pornography” arena, Finally Free is head and shoulders above the rest. His book is practical, humble, loving and balances scripture, personal stories, and humor perfectly. This book will help those struggling with pornography, as well as those who are walking along side someone in the battle. Smart. Powerful. This will be one of those books that will remain at the front of the pornography addiction conversation for years to come. I highly recommend.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from CrossFocused Reviews as part of their Blogger Review Program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Book Review : Jesus On Every Page

jesuseverypageI don’t think it is a big secret that many Christians struggle with, and as a result, shy away from the Old Testament. With its laws, sacrifices, battles, lists of genealogies, and at times “doom and gloom” outlook, many are asking “why should I bother with it at all?” On the other hand, the New Testament draws the reader in. Why wouldn’t it? It is here that we can see Jesus clearly. It is here that we see the love of God clearly through the death, burial, and resurrection of His Son Jesus. It is here we see fewer “laws”, the One Sacrifice, the battle against the enemy won at Calvary, and the Name above All Names magnified. Who wouldn’t want to read about this? Some even go as far as to say that you won’t find Jesus in the Old Testament at all. In his new book, “Jesus on Every Page; 10 Simple Ways to Seek and Find Christ in the Old Testament”, pastor and professor David Murray shares his personal struggle in making the connection between the clearly seen Jesus Christ of the New Testament and the not-so-seen Jesus Christ of the Old Testament.

Murray’s book is divided into two parts. Part One, My Road to Emmaus, chronicles the author’s personal journey of discovering Jesus in the Old Testament. Here, he looks to the words the apostles Paul, John, Peter, and to Jesus Christ Himself as evidence for the presence of Christ throughout the Old Testament. In Part Two, Spiritual Heartburn, Murray outlines the 10 ways to discover Jesus in the Old Testament:

Christ’s Planet (Jesus in Creation)

Christ’s People (Jesus in OT Characters)

Christ’s Presence (Jesus in OT Appearances)

Christ’s Precepts (Jesus in OT Law)

Christ’s Past (Jesus in OT History)

Christ’s Prophets

Christ’s Pictures (Jesus in OT Types)

Christ’s Promises (Jesus in OT Covenants)

Christ’s Proverbs

Christ’s Poems

I found two chapters to be especially helpful. In Christ’s Precepts, Murray deals with the Old Testament Mosaic Law in relation to Jesus Christ. Instead of insisting that Jesus replaces the Law, he shows how Jesus was the fulfillment highlighting the aspects of retribution, restitution, deterrence, and rehabilitation. In Christ’s Promises, Murray deals simply and smartly with Old Testament covenants. He defines what covenant is, who was affected by them, and how Jesus is the ultimate theme of them all. “Jesus on Every Page” is a good book. I really enjoyed the style of writing: simple, to the point, and personal. Well documented and written, Murray has a book that will help not just pastors or teachers find Jesus in the canon of scripture, but all believers who want to better understand the Old Testament.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their Blogger Review Program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Book Review : Sticking Points

stickAs a pastor, I encounter the challenges of leading and ministering to multiple generations on a daily basis. Each one has their own preferences. Each one has their own experiences that have shaped how they think and react. I am learning more and more every day that a “one size fits all” approach to leadership is counter-productive and frustrating to everyone involved in the leadership circle. I have asked questions much like these (to myself) many times. “Why can’t everyone look at this the same way?” “Where did that response come from?” “How can we get hung up on something a small as this?” I believe I have finally found an answer. In “Sticking Points; How to Get Four Generations Working Together in the Twelve Places They Come Apart:, author and conference speaker Haydn Shaw casts a very bright and much needed light on the reasons why multiple generations do instinctively sync when it comes to decision-making, values, and priorities.

Shaw calls this friction “sticking points”. These points are areas of life and work that are most likely to cause conflict and disagreement between generations. Shaw begins by identifying the four age groups (generations) most commonly identified by researchers. These four groups become the comparison/contrast throughout the rest of the book. He begins with the Traditionalists (those born before 1945). This generation is marked by the Great Depression, World War II, and the move from the farm to the city. Shaw then moves to the Baby Boomers (those born between 1946 and 1964). This generation is marked by an incredible post-World War II birth rate, the influence of television as a unifying influence, and a spirit of optimism. The third group is Generation X (those born between 1965 and 1980). I fall in the exact center of this generation. This generation is marked by high divorce rate, the introduction of the term “latchkey” kids, high recession rates, and skepticism as seen in a lack of faith in institutions (government, corporation, religion). Finally, Shaw highlights Millennials (those born between 1981-2001). Millennials are marked by over-protective parents, the technology boom, 9/11, and have grown up with metal detectors, airport security, terrorism, and a sense of immediate gratification.

Chapter four though seven are invaluable in understanding what makes each generation think and react the way they do. Shaw refers to these observations as “ghost stories”, meaning the influences and events that have pre-conditioned their outlook on life today. These chapters alone would be worth the price of the book itself. Shaw moves on to detail the twelve sticking points most commonly experienced. The points are: communication, decision making, dress code, feedback, fun at work, knowledge transfer, loyalty, meetings, policies, respect, training, and work ethic. Shaw dedicates an entire chapter to each sticking point. Each chapter as well has a five-step plan for dealing with each point. These five steps for leading through generational differences are: acknowledge (talk about the differences), appreciate (focus on the why and not the what), flex (agree as to how to accommodate), leverage (maximize the strength of each generation), and resolve (deciding which option is best when flexing isn’t enough).

Shaw has written an excellent book. Sticking Points is a book that I needed at this point in my life. I have seen the generational breakdown that Shaw highlights. I have never seen it explained in such a simple, informational, and precise way. Although business leaders will benefit greatly from this book, parents will as well. One of the things that infuriates me most is that my sixteen year old son can’t seem to put down his phone for more than ten seconds. This book helped me understand that he, as a Millennial, utilizes technology to maintain contact with his “tribe” of friends whose plans are extremely fluid. I get it. I rarely label a book as “must read”. However, this is no doubt one of those. Whether you are a CEO, teacher, pastor, or community leader, Sticking Points will prove to be worth your time and energy. It is a book that will read several times. A five-star book.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Tyndale House Publishers as part of their Blogger Review Program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

FIFS : 8.2.2013

“And there he went into a cave, and spent the night in that place; and behold, the word of the LORD came to him, and He said to him, “What are you doing here, Elijah?” 1 Kings 19:9

I enjoy the probing questions that are found throughout the Bible. Jesus asked Peter, “Do you love me?” Saul, on his way to Damascus was asked by Jesus, “Why are you persecuting Me?” In 1 Kings 19:9, we find another such question. After Elijah’s victory over Baal on Mt. Carmel, he finds himself on the run from Ahab’s wife, hold up in a cave. It is during this cave experience that God asked Elijah a powerful question: “What are you doing here Elijah?”

First of all, God knew why Elijah was in that cave and what brought him there. The question was not so much for information as it was intended to stir up something inside of Elijah. It was as if God was asking, “How did you get from the place where you were confident, fearless, and willing to defend my name, to hiding out in a cave, fearful of the king’s wife and feeling like you are all alone?” What happened?

I believe at times God asks the same question to us. As I mentioned, Elijah had a cave experience. We have them too. Elijah lost his focus. So do we. God wants to know from us how we can go from the high places of trust to the low places of doubt and fear when He is unchanging. If God asks you today, “What are you doing here?” What are you going to say?